Yellow September - Pursue your balance

This text is my little contribution to help you find your balance in life, be it material, mental or whatever you may be needing right now. It will not be for sure something complete, or without flaws, but I share here some thoughts I took my whole life to learn, and in spite of being so simple, helped me, and are still helping, to keep up.

First, probably the hard part: the truth.

I do not know anyone, even myself, that have achieved something without hard times. Yesterday I was talking to my little son, and I wish to share with you some part of our talking.

As I said him, unfortunately, the reality is that things will not always be as a dream. Most of the time, people will come to us with the hope to get something, be it love, comprehension, knowledge, money, and so on.

Like some friend said to me years ago, when I was on a hard time, people will not go to you when you are down. And, understand this: it is not because you or them are not good enough. The human being is always in need for something, and it goes where he believe he will get it.

More than that, we know more how to ask for, than how to give from ourselves to the ones that really need it.

Now, the good part: also the truth.

You are not alone, be it on struggle, be it on happiness: permit yourself to share. It is normal do feel lost, to have pain, to feed sad sometimes, but also to be in the need for help. And what you should do, if you need help? Ask for it!

Just look around, and I am sure you will find someone to open with, even if it come to be a professional, because sometimes it will be necessary.

But what the pursue of balance has to do with all that? This is my everyday advice to my children. It took all my life to understand that I do not have to be perfect, and that not everyone will agree with me, or have the same wishes that I have. Take it easy and breath.

Sometimes we do not even need to know or do something, but we go beyond our limits to do some things that are not always really important for ourselves; we just need to show the world that we can.

For pursuing your balance, you have to respect your on limits. Even to push harder, you cannot give a step bigger than the one you are prepared to. The burnout we are seeing in so many people nowadays come from not respecting themselves.

So, you wanna feel better? My advice is to put yourself on first place. Doing so, you will find the path to take care of your body, your mental health, your soul. We are a whole universe made of so many things that must align together.

Will this work? Will the pain go away like magic? I can say, for sure, that things will be lighter. Get a personal project, start your day praying and exercising gratitude! Start your day with a good bath, a pleasant breakfast; show yourself that YOU matter.

The balance is not only on material things, although they are part of the packet. You have to feel that you are important, and enjoy the little things.

Like I said before, it will probably not be easy, but it is possible! Let us focus on our best friend, the most important person, that hottest one, that one, that only one, that can make us happy, and that one is just ourselves.

I hope you find your balance and your self love! I do not regret from getting this knowledge and from pursuing it day after day, because it is hard and it is a daily work, but it got me the peace I was looking for.

The best way to achieve success

I used to believe that everyone should do something for me. Sometimes in my life I really believed that the world was against me, and I could not understand why I did not had what I want. I cannot blame my parents, or even the world or other people, because I had so many opportunities.

But it is not about the opportunities that you get, but much more about how you get prepared for them and, so, how you benefit from it. It took me so many years to understand, and to accept, that nothing happens if we do not prepare for the success. But how to we do that?

We live in a time of fanciful appearance, where every other one, specially on social media, seems to be great, pretty and rich, without so much effort. If we to not take care of ourselves, it is even possible to get a depression, if we start to compare our normal life with all the succeed media actors.

But the reality is a little different from that. If, even for curiosity, you search on the Internet for some people who succeed, and we could mention, just to exemplify and for you to get something to start on your search, Arnold, Jordan and Senna,  you will see there the dream of being the best, without hard work, is just a dream.

And now we start to really get on the best way! Hard work is not just hard work. It is more related to doing what need to be done, at least, everyday. My motivation for writing this text is my son, where I am seeing the same struggle that I had to accept our responsibility in life. You do not need to became a superman to get things done in a awesome way. For sure, like Arnold said once, if you want to achieve things that others don´t, you will need to do things they don't.

After understanding how things work, I now have a certainty that, the sooner you start doing, day after day, the things you should do, the lesser will be the extra that you need to do, to get the same results. I am not saying that you do not need to do the extra, because it is really necessary, if you want more, but if you accept the reality, and start to work today, instead of tomorrow, tomorrow you will not need to do what you would have done today.

As I registered on latest writings, I came back on studying IT. This week I am really fascinated with all the things I learnt, and, just in one week of good work, how we can get apart of the herd. Imagine if I had done this, twenty years ago? Now, as I said about today and tomorrow, I have to compensate what was not done yesterday, with a important restriction, that my day will not be larger.

The best way to achieve success is to start, and do what you have to do. Start now, not in a feel days. Do it, and do the extra. And for the ones that maybe thought that it is impossible if you lost some years in your journey, I would say that it will be harder, but it is still possible. Work on it, and don't let anyone discourage you, even yourself.

How is it going?

Last week I got a question, about my studies: How is it going? It is interesting when you start to do something new or, in this case, when you return to do something that you used to do, and want to go back.

The first general reaction is that on not believing that you will succeed. Sometimes you hear some jokes, and that initial flame that got you in action must be traded smoothly by discipline, otherwise you will give up before even starting.

After a while, the jokes start to change for something like "I wish to do this too", or "how are you doing this?". In short speech, you start with a exterior feeling of doubt, and, if you insist on your goals, people gradually became your supporters, be that with or without telling you.

I had that once when I decided riding a bike to work. First the jokes, than questions about how I was doing, where I was taking a shower, questions if it was difficult, and than, even some friends that became also going to job riding their bikes.

I have said a lot here in this blog about the "must go on", "don´t give up", and other related sentences, and it is because I have given up so many times in my life. Still, it is never to late to go back, and starting again, and again, and again.

I sometime heard, or maybe read somewhere, that the pain is the weakness going out of us, when we start to do something that we are not fully ready to do. You have to get hurt, struggle, fall down sometimes, to get the skills needed to be succeed. If you stop, the only certainty is that of not getting to the top, not becoming strong enough to make it happen.

Sometimes you will have to slow down, stop and analyze you achievements, maybe chance this or that strategy, so you can take the right path. See, that the right path is not always the easiest or the shortest, but you can and must go on.

As I said before, you start like an underdog, that one that nobody believes in, and, with persistence and discipline, you can became that one that make people believe that it is possible.

The world needs us. They need to believe that is possible to dream, but also make thinks happen. Like that sentence (maybe from Mark Twain): "They did not know it was impossible, so they did it".